When I was a younger man I used to stress out so much when my wife was running late. As I think I mentioned, I was married once before for almost twenty years. During that time, we were late hundreds of times, to dinner engagements, to weddings, to family events, to just about everything. I was a stress case every time. I began worrying hours before we were to be anywhere together. I began plotting ways to facilitate an on time arrival. I dropped hints. I checked on her progress. I very inconspicuously mentioned the time, which was not so inconspicuous. By twenty minutes before we were supposed to leave anywhere, I had managed to add to my stress by stressing her out as well. It never helped. Not one time. It only proceeded to ruin whatever time we spent at every event we may have been attending.
Today, I really try not to do that. I have the most beautiful, kind, caring, considerate wife. I want more than anything to make her happy. Even more, I want to enjoy all the time I have with her. I can only do that by not adding to the stress and trouble that life already inherently has. I have learned that being late to personal engagements are not that big of a deal. Sure, I would love to be on time wherever we go. And I know that to the people we are meeting, being on time is likely very important. But in my experience, women need more time to get ready. Everything about the way they look is really important. And they do tend run late. But rushing them has never yielded much success. More importantly, there is not one person that we are ever going to see that is more important than the one we are taking with us. None will be in the car as we drive together to the event. A great opportunity to talk, to laugh, to deepen our relationship. A time which is almost assuredly ruined by freaking out while your lady is getting ready. None will lay down next to you in bed at the end of the day. I don’t want to ruin that time with my wife.
I cannot emphasize enough how useless this is. Forget it. Don’t worry if your going to be late. Don’t worry about what anyone else might think of you. Put that energy into working on what your wife or girlfriend thinks of you. Put your efforts in an area that can change your life. Change your relationship. It will yield you great happiness. It won’t likely get you anywhere any earlier. But it will show the woman you love, that you do love her. That she is the most important person in your life. And that will make all things better. If your lucky, showing her that grace might help her to extend some grace to you. And we all know that we have plenty of areas that we might need a little grace as well.
Give her WHAT SHE NEEDS FROM YOU. A man that is greater than all others. A man that adores her. A man that is to committed to her above all others. Her Prince Charming.