I just read a comment left by fellow blogger Jocelyn Storm. She had quoted Rick Warren saying, “The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention.” He had so succinctly summed up what this blog is all about. Focused attention. Not that diamonds or roses or chocolate are not important. They really are. They play an important part of showing your love and devotion. But even those are part of an overall focused attention on the girl that stole your heart.
Everything I write here is about focused attention on your sweetheart. Taking the focus off of yourself and what you need and turning that focus onto the woman you love. Whether it be simply stopping what you are doing and listening intently to what is on her mind or making a list of the things that are important to her so that you can do them. It is focused attention. It is waking up everyday with intent. Don’t be that guy that just reacts to whatever happens. Focus your attention on her and be the man that makes it happen.
For me, it is texting Janine every time I think of her. Letting her know I am thinking of her. I don’t care where I am or what I am doing. I just do it. It is always having my ear open to hear her mention something she likes or wants and putting in a list I keep on my phone. Some of them are inexpensive and some are very expensive. I can do some of them on any given day and others I might have to wait years. Like the new house or the BMW. It is walking into the house at the end of the day, no matter how tired I am, seeking her out, and kissing her and telling her I have missed her. I am focused on what she needs from me. And it is my pleasure. It isn’t work. I committed my life to her. How could I give her anything short of my focused attention.
I hope each of you really take this to heart. It is the meat of what it means to be a great husband. This is where the rubber meets the road. If you give your focused attention to your lady she will know she is loved. And in the safety of knowing that she is loved, she can be the best woman she can be.