For much of my life I had distorted the meaning of “I love you” from an expression of my sincerest and deepest feelings to a salutation. Whenever I was on the phone and wanted to get off, I would say “I love you.” I didn’t mean I love you, I meant goodbye. I am bored or distracted or have something else I would rather be doing and I am done with this conversation. Saying I love you was just a way to say goodbye, I gotta go. But it was so insincere. I was really being a jerk and wrapping it up all pretty to make myself feel good.
You can say these words 50 times a day and mean them sincerely every time you say them. And you can say them other times and have no heart or feeling behind them at all. Don’t say it if you are not really trying to express how you feel. Don’t say it because it’s what you are supposed to say. Don’t say it to fill an awkward moment. Don’t minimize the importance of these life changing words.
But even more importantly, when you do say them, think about what you are saying. Be sincere. When possible, stop the woman you love, look her in the eyes, take her in your arms, and say, “I LOVE YOU. I am in love with you.” Tell her what you love about her. Tell her the things she does that makes you love her. Tell her specifically, the things about her that are the most endearing.
Don’t let these words be just words. Let them be a small expression, a reminder of the love you show her everyday. Do all the loving things you can for her day by day and let these words be the hyperlink in her mind back to the way you show her you love her.