Whenever two people, two personalities, two characters are in a relationship of any kind for an extended period of time, there will be conflicts. There will be disagreements. There will be competing points of view. Not only is there nothing wrong with that, it is absolutely healthy. When this happens, there are many things that can result. Which of these possibilities occurs is vastly less important than how you handle yourself in these times.
Certainly, one thing that can happen is that after a more in depth analysis one side or the other can realize that they were incorrect, misinformed or somehow just wrong. Hopefully, that party will be humble enough to accept this realization and equally importantly the other party will be just as humble and gracious.
Another possibility is that both parties realize that the issue at hand isn’t that important anyway and decide to drop it with or without any determination. This is not avoiding the subject but more a realization that it doesn’t matter and definitely isn’t worth a conflict between each other.
But there is another outcome that I have never heard discussed in any forum. It is the acceptance of unresolved conflict. I am not talking about pretending to be a martyr and wearing your badge of “I am the better person” accepting that you are wrong and not pointing it out over and over, when your really finding plenty of ways to make it known. I am also not referring to either party having to suck it up and swallow their feelings. That is so damaging. I am really talking about accepting unresolved conflict. Acknowledging that your wife and yourself cannot come to an agreement, setting it aside, and not begrudging her in any way. Whether you are wrong, possibly right or even if you are certain than you are right.
It is absolutely possible to be in complete disagreement on a certain topic and have it bare no effect on any other part of your relationship. For you to set aside your feelings toward the disagreement and be completely loving to your wife in every other interaction. Neither carrying a grudge about the conflict nor constantly bringing it up again. Accepting that the relationship has more value than any individual topic or concept. Knowing that time will reveal the answer if necessary, not on our timetable, but in time none the less.
There is rarely any value greater in being right than there is in just being kind. Being the man she loves and deserves even if you don’t agree on everything. When you come up against an issue that you just can’t seem to settle, take the high road. Tell her that in spite of the conflict, you love her. Be affectionate to her. Show her kindness. Show her that above all else you love her and are committed to her.