Why is it that so many guys are willing to take advantage of the old saying that boys will be boys? This little ditty is not an accurate description of how men are destined to act. It is more an overused and tired excuse for allowing ourselves and for women to minimize the things we do that are unacceptable.
One of the worst offenses of these objectionable acts is how guys will look at or should I say checkout other women when in the company of their wives. Setting aside the absolute disrespect for the women that we love, is it really that hard to be completely in the moment and the experience of the time we share with our sweethearts. Are we really so willing to be relegated to the class of nothing more than an animal that we accept that we don’t have any self-control?
We have all heard the excuses that are bandied about. It’s okay to checkout the menu as long as I eat at home, and there’s nothing wrong with looking as long as I don’t touch. While I know that every man can look and appreciate a beautiful woman without having any desire or intent of anything more than the appreciation itself, I also know that most men add in a measure of lust in every glance. What I don’t understand is how we can find any reason to allow even an innocent acknowledgment of another women’s beauty in the presence of our wives.
To even be aware of another women’s physical appearance while in the company of the one woman we each married is not only disrespectful, it is harmful to their self-esteem, their feeling of safety with their husband, and detrimental to our relationships in every way. Even if it is in the smallest way, it sends a signal that you are always looking for something better. That our wives have to not only match up to every other woman out there but they must exceed them to keep our interests. That it is no longer enough to be the best wife, mother, friend, and lover that they can be for us, they also must somehow compete for our attention with every girl that walks by.
Don’t be that guy. Give your complete attention to your wife when you are with her. Give her your thoughts, give her your actions, and give her your respect. Above all, give her the safety of knowing that you only have eyes for her. That there is not another woman in the world that could take you away from her for any reason. Give her the man that she gave her life to when she married you and gave you hers.