I was recently talking with my son. He was telling me how he and a friend of his were talking about their dads. They both were wondering how it is that a father can put so much time and effort in to making a good living and then so freely give much of what he has to the ones he loves.
I can only imagine that as young men, they were looking forward to a future time in their lives, when they too would have families to care for of their own. And with the experience they had to draw from, as single men, they only knew what it meant to take care of themselves. But it is in the taking care of ourselves that we learn to care for others.
It is only my experience and what I have been through in my own life that I can draw a conclusion as to why, as fathers, as husbands, we would pour ourselves out for our family. It is from that same need to care for ourselves that we do this. For their is no comfort in money. There is no comfort in business or professional success. These are merely a means to an end.
It is through our caring for our loved ones, through the meeting of their needs, helping them to be successful, that we have peace of mind. What father could enjoy any of the fruits of his labor if the ones he loved were not okay. Not cared for. What man could be fulfilled by things or money while his loved ones suffer.
As men we are driven to provide for our families. And that means to not only provide for them financially, but also emotionally and physically. To pour ourselves out to and for them. There is no great sacrifice in giving what we have to those we love. It is easy to give of ourselves to our wives and children when we desire peace of mind. When we desire and value the happiness that they have given to our lives, we give back in gratitude. It is in this giving that we become satisfied. Enjoying the results and effects of using our resources for the benefits of others rather than holding onto it for ourselves.
Let’s be honest. We have and do plenty for ourselves without much prompting. Let us all as men, make sure we are also generous to our family and to others in need. Giving and giving abundantly. Don’t hold onto things or money. Instead, hold onto the results of your generosity as it is made valuable in those you love.
For those of you who haven’t had a chance to read the wisdom that my son shares on his blog, take a look. He is quite an amazing young man.
I love you Zack.