I can’t imagine there is one of you out there who would not want to have a great marriage. Yes, I am sure that many of you have lost hope. That you don’t believe there is any chance you could still have the happily-ever-after you sought on the day of your wedding. But if you are willing to be selfish, it’s not too late.
My friend Pat has often told me that if I am greedy enough to want more, than all I have to do is help others get what they want and what I want will come to me. I was thinking about this while writing another post for you. I am always writing about what you have to do to make your marriages great. And it dawned on me that what he said is similar to what I write about.
If you want to have a great marriage, be selfish about it. Don’t let anything stand in your way. Be selfish enough to give your wife everything she needs in a great husband so that you can have a great wife. Accept the fact that you selfishly want a great marriage and that you can have it. All you have to do is meet her needs first.
Don’t accept the notion that your marriage sucks and you can’t do anything about it. I do know that if you are not willing to do what has to be done, you will not have what you want.
I remember an old proverb that went something like, “Chop your own wood and you will be warmed twice.” Obviously, whoever said this was saying that you will be warmed as you do the work of chopping the wood, as well as being warmed by the heat from the fire when burning the wood.
It is the same in working everyday in your marriage. You will find comfort and hope in your marriage as you put forth the effort of loving your wife. But you will again find comfort and hope as your wife loves you back for loving her. Be selfish. Your wife will thank you for it.