I have seen quite a few comments and quite a few other blogs talk about how I only address what a woman needs from a man and not what a man needs from a woman. While many of these are very derogatory, I find most of them to be simply ignorant. Not because they are wrong. But because that is what this blog is about. Hence the name What She Needs From You.
But nevertheless, I wanted to address the point directly.
To all of you amazing women that read this blog everyday and comment on your great husbands or lack thereof. Here is my list of what we need from you.
We need you to support us in our work.
We need you to tell us we are handsome, even if we are not.
We need you to kiss us when you see us.
We need you to make us look better in the way we dress. (Maybe not all of us.)
We need you to kindly point out when we are offending someone.
We need you to remind us when we are neglecting you.
We need you to remind us when we are neglecting the kids.
We need you to be affectionate with us.
We need you to desire us.
We need you to brag about us.
We need you to hang up the phone with friends and family and spend time with us.
We need you to want sex. (Even when you don’t want sex.)
We need you to amazed by us.
We need you to stroke our ego.
We need you to think we are smart. Even if no one else does.
We need you to encourage us.
We need you to patient with us.
We need you to surprise us with things.
We need you to care about your physical appearance.
We need you to mother our children.
We need you to point out the little things in life that we often miss.
We need you to remind us there is a God, and we are not Him.
I am sure there are a million other things we need and maybe I will start a new blog someday to better explore and articulate those things. But for now, you have a starter list and I hope all those that thought I didn’t know that we men have needs too, now know that I am aware that this is a two way street. That while I don’t specifically address it on a daily basis, you women have to be willing to work just as hard as we do. And you have to respond to what we do to show you how much we love you.
For those whose intent was to say that a man shouldn’t have to do all the things I write about in this blog, I am so sorry for you. You will never have the amazing gift that is a good wife, until you are willing to be a good husband. Or more to the point, a good man.