It is very common for men to exude a sense of confidence, strength, wisdom, and knowledge whether we possess these qualities or not. While it is so important that we are able to portray these qualities in many situations like job hunting, deal negotiating, protecting our families and many more, I am not sure that most of us believe it ourselves. Whatever our level of achievement in each of these areas, it is important that we reach a level of contentment. Not that we stop at one place or another and rest on our laurels. We just have to have some sense of being okay with ourselves if we are going to be of any value to our spouses.
Francois de la Rochefoucauld said it best, “When we cannot find contentment in ourselves it is useless to seek it elsewhere.” How can we be content in our relationship if we are not content in ourselves? Even more problematic, how can we give our spouses any level of contentment in our marriage, if we are not content in ourselves?
There are so many areas in our lives that have the possibility of leaving us unhappy, unfulfilled, yes, discontent. Whether it be in our job, our education, our skill level, or our ability to love someone, we can find ourselves feeling less than adequate. Fortunately, we have the option and availability of various ways to improve.
If you feel that your education is holding you back in any way, take some new classes. Get your degree. If you feel you lack wisdom, read the Bible, it is all there for the taking. If you sense you are being held back at work from a promotion, go to your supervisor and ask directly what it is you can do to increase the likelihood of advancement. If you struggle with how to love in any way, get some information on the specific area you need help with. Read a book, go to the internet, or see a counselor.
Whatever you have to do to achieve a sense of contentment in your life, do it. It’s worth it. By taking care of yourself, you will be a better husband, a better father, a better man. And that is all our wives want from us. A real man. So get to it. You know you da man.