Come here or get it somewhere else.

It is not important where you get good information, it is only important that you get good information. As you can imagine, I am a little biased in my belief that good information is available to all of your right here. But I can assure you that this blog is not exhaustive nor does it cover many specific ideas and questions. So you may have to check out many sources in your endeavor to get the help you need for your marriage.

It is rarely difficult to understand the truth once you have found it. The work is in the finding of the truth. Once you have determined that you do in fact need help and information that you do not currently have, the next step is to locate the source or sources that posses what you are looking for.

As you can surely imagine, there are so many resources available on the web, through blogs and reference websites. Additionally, there are thousands of books available, many of which address topics ranging from very general to pin-point specific. And while I love the ease in which you can research specific topics on the web, there are times that nothing will be as beneficial as talking with someone directly. Whether that be a family member, a mentor, a pastor, or even a counselor. All of these can be very advantageous depending on your relationships and individual circumstances.

The first step is to acknowledge that you have a need. Second, that you are willing to do the work that will be required to bring benefit to your situation. Third you have to go to the source of the help. And finally, you have to implement your plan for remedy.

Take the time to write down as specific as you can be, what you think the problem is. Try to outline the cause and effect of the problem. Look at both parties to the situation and honestly examine what your own involvement is in the problem and the solution. You might find that in doing so you will be able to answer some of the questions you have on what you can do right now to help.


6 Responses to Come here or get it somewhere else.

  1. You are so right about researching the problem and the solution and making sure to include your part in both! We are so blessed to have so many avenues available to us through the internet, radio, books, counselors in which to search out truth. It all comes down to that, what is truth, and more importantly what is God’s truth, not what we think or feel it should be. The older I get the more I realize most everything we need to find real truth is in God’s Word.

  2. rollsettravel says:

    At first I thought the title to your post suggested a case for infidelity. I was shocked. All though I haven’t been reading your posts that long but judging by the ones I have read, the advice seemed way out of character. You can imagine my relief to have put that thought to rest.
    I enjoy your site and often find myself nodding in agreement. I make mistakes but the key is to communicate. We’ve been in love 28 years and counting, thanks for the informative site. A.J.

  3. Deanna says:

    Hope you haven’t stopped posting!

  4. I noticed that as well…been a while since we’ve seen a post her Ken. As far as identifying and researching the problem, I have found that it is actually more beneficial to look at the whole story behind a situation. When you focus on just the problem you may be missing out on some key causes and effects that led to it. So I recommend starting with telling a story rather than keying in on a specific problem when it comes to finding resolutions. However, everything else I would have to agree with 100%. And there is no better remedy than to talk to someone that you trust…someone that will listen objectively.

  5. Michael says:

    Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year – a year fill with love, happiness, success and an abundance of opportunities to do better in all your endeavor.

    Stay great and Happy holidays. !!!

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