Every good man wants his wife to know that she is loved, respected, honored and desired. Here you will find thoughts and ideas on how you can give this to your wife.

It’s funny. I always seem to have a good word to say about so many other people but it is hard to sit and write about myself. There is the easy stuff, I am 44 years old, a Christian, a husband, a father, a grandfather, a business owner. Those are the pat answers but they really don’t tell you WHO I AM.

More to the point, I am married to the most wonderful woman that God ever created. She is kind, she is compassionate, she is loving, she is a great mother and she is beautiful. She is my absolute best friend. I have known her for 7 years and we became great friends before we fell in love.

I have one adopted daughter from my first marriage, she is now 24, almost 25. She is the mother of my only grandson, Chase. She is funny, smart, and a great singer. I have three other great kids with my first wife. Zack is 21 and living in San Francisco. He is a writer, a singer, a philosopher, and a great son. Kandiss is 18, going to college in Dallas. She is smart, driven, beautiful and makes me so proud. And Seth who is 15. He is funny, lovable, compassionate, a great friend to his buddies, and destined to be a great man. I also have two great stepchildren. Dylan is 8 years old. He is smart, handsome, shy, in love with his mom, and makes me laugh everyday. And finally Izzy who is 4. She is 80 lbs. of personality in a 40 lb. body. She is the funniest little girl I have ever known. She is smart, beautiful, and I can’t wait to see her grow up.

I am also divorced. I consider this one of the true failures in my life. I worked very hard at making my first marriage work and was not successful. No matter what advice I give in this blog, I was not perfect in any way. I don’t regret anything about my first marriage other than its demise. It made me a man. In many ways it made me the man that you will see as you read my blog. I only hope that this blog will help other couples do the work that must be done to make your marriage work.

I was born and raised in Southern California. We have a really big extended family. My mom and dad have been married for 52 years and are a great example to all of us. My dad owns a sign company and my sister works with him. She is 50 years old and a great sister. I also have an older brother living in Texas with his wife and two daughters along with their families. My brother and I have worked together most of our lives and it has been a great pleasure to me. We all miss him now that he has moved.

I also own Visible Graphics. A national provider of electric signs to retailers like Jamba Juice, Vans, The Coffee Bean and Famous Footwear. For most of my life, signs and business have been one of my great passions. My love for business and having been through extremely difficult times I also spend a great deal of time consulting with companies that are facing severe financial difficulties.ย  I do allย  of this with my associate Patย  who is one of the most amazing men I have ever known in this field. With his experience and wisdom, we have taken many companies through bankruptcy and reorganization, restoring their companies, their relationships and even their lives.

Please leave me a comment on this if there is anything else you would like to know about me. It would be my pleasure to share with you who I am.



P.S. If your interested, I have posted a short video of our wedding. Look in the left column under pages.

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43 Responses to About

  1. John R. Blue says:

    I think more will get it than you can imagine. As life goes on, we get older, and our friends and families are challenged with our inability to “feel”, we males will be forced to look outside of the box at a lifestyle far more rewarding than the stereo typical role once expected of us. True, we still have the need to protect, however, choosing our words and methods wisely,and allowing our feelings to be expressed, will make our worlds a far better place and our relationships worth having. I love you Cindy!

  2. Teri says:

    Hey, Ken!

    I don’t know where to post this, so I guess I’ll post it here? You visited my blog Pilgrimmage (http://terij.wordpress.com) today and asked me to visit your site and comment on it. I’ve read a few of your posts, and think they are very loving and very good. I think you don’t really need me to give you feedback. I think that if men treated their wives as you recommend, they’d have very good marriages! Keep sharing your heart, keep being honest, and keep listening to your wise wife!

    Do you mind if I share your site with others? Do you mind if I put a link to your site on my blog?


    • Ken Kendall says:

      It would be my pleasure. Thank you so much. Can I do the same with your blog. It is awesome. I would like to add it to my blogroll if that is okay with you.


  3. Teri says:

    Thank you, Ken! And yes you can add my blog to your site.

    God bless!

  4. tymzawstn says:

    Hi Ken,
    It’s me again…just reading through some of your additional posts. I wish the men that were capable of voicing their love and/or communicating their thoughts as you do would step out from behind that wall in front of them and just say what they feel honestly and as openly, I think there are a lot out there who can, while others may be in fear of the reactions.

    Great insight and information.

  5. angelareid says:

    After reading some of your posts, I would like to know more about your Christian walk and how it affects your marriage and defines your life. I see a lot of how-to information, but I am a “why” person. I would love to know how biblical truth plays into the advice you give. Why are these things good and right? God’s Word is the source of truth, so if the Bible says it, we’d better heed it.

    I have not always looked in the right places for marital advice. Over the years, though, I have learned that if I follow a biblical pattern for womanhood, I and my marriage do much better. This is true for my husband and biblical manhood as well. It’s laid out for us in the Bible, all we have to do is look for it.

    My husband and I just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary, and I give God all the glory for that. If Jesus Christ were not the one each of us treasures most, we would have no reason to rejoice. Marriage is to be a picture to the world of Christ and his bride, the church. I pray that it is so for my marriage. The gospel is so important, it applies to everything. This is the reason we are able to love…a heart changed by God.

    I am happy that you find so much pleasure in expressing your love and commitment to your wife. It’s definitely not a bad thing to read! Please take my comments with a grain of salt. I do not claim to be a marriage expert. I am just a person who tries to follow hard after God in all I do…marriage, parenting…well, those are my two main jobs. My point is that it is always possible I will learn from you, just as you may learn from my experiences which I share on my blog. That’s why I do it…so maybe others might benefit from my experiences, good and bad.


    • Ken Kendall says:

      I think I can answer this one pretty easy. It is only because of the saving grace of Jesus Christ that I am the man, husband and father that I am. If it were not for what God weaved into my being, and the words of Jesus Christ for teaching, I would act in a completely different way. I would be true to my sinful nature. The love I feel for my wife is true and sincere, but it is only because I choose to do what is right, that I can love her the way I have described.

      Much of what I am saying here has a direct link back to the Beatitudes. It also in knowing that I can only be great by being a servant. That is not my words but our Lord Jesus Christ.

      Thanks for your comment. You have blessed me today.

  6. CoSyC says:

    Hello Ken,

    Thank you for visiting my blog and taking the time to invite me to yours. I to, as others have, read a few entries and already they have changed my outlook on my marraige. I have been having mixed feelings about things recently and after reading your blog I have noticed that I am not giving it my all. You are a great mentor and I plan to put your ideas into my every day routine. My wife does deserve to know she is loved and that she is my world. Thank you so much for putting forth the effort most men would not, and then passing on your wisdom.

    All the best,


    • Ken Kendall says:

      Wow! Thank you so much for your authenticity and your feedback. You have given me even more inspiration to continue. I have a deep heartfelt desire to see marriages work. To that end, I work daily on my own and share what works with others.

      My best wishes and prayers to you and your wife.

      Thank you.

  7. Sajib says:

    Thank you so much for creating such a wonderful blog. Though I think that if “she” is wise and intelligent enough, she will easily realize what her partner thinks about her. But some tips do really work. I’d hope none will use these tips from this blog just to make their girlfriends feel better and special while they are actually not in true love.

    Anyway, Ken, I think you better buy a domain and a hosting for your blog. The idea is commendable. But I think you already noticed limitations of WP.com. A domain and a hosting doesn’t take too much money. Moreover, you will get the opportunity to earn money from your blog if you want.

    If you buy domain and hosting and need help creating (installing, dealing with plugins and themes, customization etc) wordpress, just drop me a note. I will be happy to help you.

  8. 06mickey says:

    I think more men should read this! there would more happier relationships.
    This is going to my blogroll. will definitely keep reading

  9. Scattered Rayn says:

    Dear Ken,

    Just wanted to let you know that I have left answers on your old blog (I only just saw your reply today, sorry) and wanted to place my responses where they’d stay in context. Hope that’s not a problem.

    I look forward to catching up with the new postings here. Thank you!

    All the best to you and yours,

  10. 2ndchanceat36 says:

    Wow! How can one person have that much insight? Everything makes so much sense.

    • Ken Kendall says:

      You are so kind. Thank you. Keep coming back. I have so much more I want to share with everyone. I am trying to figure out a way to also get feedback on any special interest topics that people might want discussed.

      Thanks again

      • 06mickey says:

        talking about special interests topics,maybe you cud also talk about what men need from their women…just a thought

  11. clary says:

    Hi Ken,
    Thank you for this candid introduction of yourself. We all experience failure to some extent in our life even though we would love the happily ever after, hopefully valuable lessons were learn from that failure and that will help us. Thank you for visiting my blog, I will be reading some of your entries, they are very timely. God bless.

  12. Daisy Hunt says:

    Somehow I was meant to find your blog today…God led me to it, I am sure of that!
    Briefly, just let me say that it is WONDERFUL!
    I just married Jake on August 30th…he is a “guy”, and I love him deeply with my entire being….my everlasting commitment is what keeps me here awaiting his growth to be a “man”. I am certain of his love for me, what is lacking are the signs of that love. Currently, we do nothing together, we don’t even talk, and he says that I should be happy just to “be” with him…and is confused by my need for “more”…
    I am going to take your cue, and read to him— your blog!
    I cried when I read it myself, THIS~ the thougths, feelings and relationship you describe, is what Jake and I shared during our beginning 18 months ago—I don’t know where or why it’s gone, but I so desperately want it back.
    Thank You so much for sharing your thoughts!

  13. what she needs from you, Boys…is for you to read this blog. of course, none of the guys i ever dated, shagged, or married…did.
    alas, always tomorrow. hope springs eternal.

  14. Travis says:

    Hi Ken, it looks like your hitting a nerve with some people, who don’t feel that marriage is of any importance. I appreciate the like-mindedness, and I thought for awhile that I was going to be alone in my beliefs. It’s good to see a fellow believer in loving and respecting our wives.


  15. Dawn says:


    I found your blog through a response you posted on Samantha Penhale’s blog. I am a friend of Samantha from N.C. I was interested in reading your post because I am blogging on a marriage-related topic as well. Would you to take a look at my blog (marriagedance.wordpress.com) and let me know what you think? I’m particularly interest in a man’s perspective. Once you read it, post a response or email me. If you’re willing, we could cross-post our blogs because of the common theme.


  16. Puspa says:

    Hi, Ken.
    I just read ur comments and interested about ur blog ๐Ÿ™‚
    nice blog, anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

    What I’m having now is a relationship with my boyfriend.
    We love each other and committed a long lasting relationship that would end in marriage.

    I love him so much, yet somehow I don’t understand what males think of their female partners.
    Do you also write a blog about ‘what he needs from you’? ๐Ÿ˜† ๐Ÿ˜

    And yes I have to admit that he’s thinking much about how success he will be, thus he can guarantee a good living with me.
    But in the path of making this relationship, I realize there are problems, thus I need to know ways to maintain good relationship esp. when he’s far away from me ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

    thank you for ur comment to my blog, anyhow ๐Ÿ™‚

  17. B says:

    Cool blog man.

  18. Sara Fryd says:

    What an incredible blog!!! I have one question – Do you have a brother that writes and talks like you? ๐Ÿ™‚ OMG how lucky the people you love are to have you in their lives. Thank you for visiting and leaving me a note. I will read every word as time permits. So happy to meet you. Sara Fryd

  19. Well this was pretty neat. I will say you’ve been open and honest about yourself. I figured somehow there must be a connection to Christ..(the gratitude) though I didn’t get that far..anyway, nice to meet you- Regina

  20. Hey Ken, thanks again for the words on my blog. I had to come and check your ‘about me’ page. The way that you describe marriage sounds like a young man in his first marriage and not a grand-father into a later marriage. Not necessarily a bad thing…just unexpected.
    I had these kinds of thoughts and feelings going into my first marriage at 23 and it completely jaded me to the fact that I was putting more into the marriage than my wife. It ended in divorce last year when I finally decided that I needed to be in a healthier place. Much like you, I let God lead me in that direction. I have since met a wonderful person and am building a life with her. My point is that I feel wiser having come out of the relationship giving a lot of the things that you bring up. I tried to micro manage my relationship like a business and tried to do all of the things that I thought I should do instead of actually letting the relationship breathe and understand that she needed different things than what I did or could give. Through my new found health and relationship with God, I realized that you can’t manage a relationship by making a list of things that women need. You can simply be yourself…the person that she fell in love with. You let God lead the path and the rest will generally take care of itself. Every woman is different and will need something different than the next. Just like every man can provide and will need different things as well. With that said, I am still thoroughly enjoying reading what you write. It’s very fascinating to me. Keep up the good writing and I’ll keep reading and adding comments.

  21. Larry James says:

    Ken – I’ve added your link to my CelebrateLove.com BLOG @ http://www.CelebrateLove.wordpress.com (in the far right column)

    Trade links?

    Thanks in advance.

    Celebrate Love!

    Larry James

  22. Hello Ken ~

    Thanks for visiting my blog. I appreciate your encouragement. Your blog is a very refreshing perspective! I love that you take your role of husband so seriously and are willing to think through issues and study your wife and how you can meet her needs. You’re so right … she will respond in a big way and I’m sure you’re reaping the benefits of it!

    I pray God’s wisdom for you as you continue your thoughtful blogging!


    Candy Troutman

  23. Lizanne says:

    I just watched your wedding video… It was the most beautiful wedding i have ever seen. I have never seen a groom look at his bride the way you looked at Janine. You are a lovely couple. May the Lord truly bless your marriage, and others through it.

  24. saphie060909 says:

    Hi, Ken…
    I’ve read those, what you write… It’s all great..Hopefully this can make me move on ^o^..
    It’s hard for me to move on..when i finally realize that i love him, but it’s too late to make it works…
    Yeah.people make mistakes…but why there’s still no chance for me to prove that i can be better than before…’Till now I’m still in waiting…
    Is this always like this when you finally found that one, but he’s not the one for you??
    Sorry…kind a desperate person…hahaha..^o^
    But i’m preparing to move on now…

    Anyway thanks for visiting my blog then, you’re the 1st one ^o^ that comment on it…I’m only a beginner in blogging…I’ll always added the new one…
    And I think what you’ve done in this blog really help men out there to help them how to treat women..
    Thanks a lot y… GBU

  25. Jessica says:

    Thanks for visiting my blog. This stuff is great, I can’t wait to read more!

  26. capribythelake says:

    Thank you for your wonderful comment on my blog! I look forward to reading through your wisdom filled posts! God bless.

  27. caliblue says:

    i must say, you have a wonderful blog!
    where in california? this is where i live and grew up for most of my life.
    anyway, i usually post links on my pages to blogs that would be of interest to people i know read my writings. with your permission, i would like to do this. you have an unusual way of thought for an, and please excuse me, an American male. i usually find your way of thinking more in line with European or MiddleEastern men.
    i also want to thank you for your comment on my writing…how did you find me? i am always curious. i had a very large following on y360 BEFORE it folded. kinda starting over here. ๐Ÿ™‚
    have a great day!

    • Ken Kendall says:

      Thank you so much. I live in Burbank, CA and have always lived within 25 miles of the San Fernando Valley where I was born. Coincidentally, though I am not European or Middle Eastern, my wife is. She is Romanian. I don’t know if that is what makes her so wonderful, but if it is, I highly recommend every American man get on a plane and go get someone just like her.

      I would love for you to add a link to your page. I am trying so hard to get the message out to men, that they really can have an impact on making great marriages.

      I found your blog while tag surfing. It came up when I was looking at blogs about love.

      Thank you for taking the time to read. I hope you will keep coming back. I welcome any suggestions, comments or feedback so I can continue to improve.

      • caliblue says:

        wow..burbank! i’m in chatsworth…just on the west side of the valley. yea..valley girl!

        i will add your link to all my pages. lol! i think some of my friends will be surprised that American men can think like this. my fiance is Egyptian. many of my friends are from the mediterranean or middle east. interesting points of view. ๐Ÿ™‚

        i have so many poems on this page. i really thank you for the comments. it’s difficult to get people to open up! ๐Ÿ™‚

        you are most welcome. great reads!

  28. Teri says:

    Hey, Ken, I put a link to your blog on my Facebook page.

  29. thepurebed says:

    Ken, I appreciate your blog. Your integrity and transparency only serves to support an idea of manhood, marriage and life that is honest and inspiring. Thank you.

    Carnell and Angela

  30. Lori McFarland says:

    My husband and I are having maritial issues, I wish so much I could direct him to your blog, but I also don’t want it to come from me as he has falling into a depression since his father passed recently, with his mother gone as well, he has been very unhappy and has made me somewhat the one to blame. Wait, I’ll present that right- he has made me the one to blame. He says he doesn’t love me anymore, and that hurts so much. Somedays he is so lost and others he seems to want to try, but then doesn’t know how. I am trying to figure out a way to get him to your site, I will figure out a way soon. Thank you, what you are writing is amazing, helpful and something that I admire you for.

    • Ken Kendall says:

      Hi Lori,

      I am so sorry to hear of your situation. I will be praying for you and your husband. Believe it or not, it is very easy to tell someone you don’t love them anymore because that let’s you off the hook from having to do the work that is loving someone. I am sure he is overwhelmed by his circumstances and just doesn’t know what to do. I would love to help in any way I can.

      Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.

  31. Hi Ken!
    I came to your blog via that of Miss Love in Waiting.
    And I am glad I did come here! Praise God for your ministry and I will gladly pass this along. I will let you know when my blog launches this month…very very soon!

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